On Assumptions & Communication


It is the Saturday before Labor Day and I wish I could find some Bugs Bunny cartoons.  When I was a kid, Saturdays and Bugs Bunny just went together.  He could always make me laugh so hard.  I also thought he was pretty smart and was able to think fast on his feet.  His big, furry feet.  :c)

Summer is almost over and what a summer it has been!  Sixteen AMAZING young people and eight AMAZED adults shared an AMAZING experience and became very bonded together.  I’ve realized something important this week:  the grown-ups aren’t the only ones who have remained connected.  Yeah, I learned the hard way!

So here’s what happened…late Wednesday afternoon I was given 7 tickets to a Jags game someone had been donated for kids in foster care.  I immediately thought of you.  But seven tickets?  Really?  How could I possible make it fair?

The answer seemed simple…Normally, I only work with seventeen year olds.  So that’s to whom I would offer the tickets.  Also, the game started at 6:30, which meant there wouldn’t be much time to pick up kids,  so I decided to offer them to seventeen year olds at PYS, one of whom I soon learned probably wouldn’t go because he had other plans.  I offered his ticket to another youth, who could not go because of homework.

Well…what I did not count on was someone assuming this was the trip to the Jags game promised as a reunion and texting that assumption to others in the group.  I get how the misunderstanding happened…and I know how I could have prevented it.

So this seemed like a perfect topic for this life lessons blog.  My advice for you today is: Make no assumptions…especially where others are concerned.  Ask questions…check things out.  If the person or persons texting the game info had just asked me, I would have explained the situation.

My advice to myself is: Communicate to all in a group…not just a few.  A couple of you called to ask about the game, which was a good chance for me to explain what happened and how this wasn’t the game promised to the group.

Going forward, since we are all in this wonderful thing called “Just Like Me”, I will communicate to all of you when something affects some of you.  I never want to make anyone feel like left out.  There will be times, however when we will only be able to offer an activity to seventeen year olds. So it makes sense to use this blog space to notify everyone of the event and stipulate which age groups are included.  Sound fair?

Now, it wouldn’t be a good blog without the opportunity for comments, so the comment space is open to members of the JustLikeMeJax.com website with just a few rules:  1) all comments are reviewed daily for objectionable content; photographs are reviewed prior to posting and allowed to remain at the sole discretion of the webmaster 2) objectionable content is defined as: profanity; sexual nature; harassing, threatening or derogatory towards another person 3) poster of removed comments may be banned from future posts.  This is a positive, good natured, supportive, safe zone.  There are plenty of other sites where you can exercise negativity if that’s your thing.  As the Just Like Me experience itself was voluntary to attend and voluntary for us to allow you to attend, so it is with this website.  Rules are few…but enforced.

Back to the make no assumptions thing…When I am with you 1-2-1 as your life coach, I make you the center of my attention…as much as possible.  So it may be important for me to remind you that both Miss Laura and myself work with ALL seventeen year olds.   I know her really well, and I’m sure Miss Laura is very focused on each person she is with as well.

And that will be our topic next week.  Attention.  Paying attention and what that looks like.  :c)

Until then, stay safe…be calm…have faith.  Remember…

We have been destined to succeed because you are just like me.


Brenda Stewart